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Self love gone wrong

Self love is very vital in one's life.  It is the core reason for confidence and maturity.

In today's world, people have discovered that self love is important and are using it, however, others are using it wrongly.
Promoting:
  • self gain
  • Ignoring other people's needs
  • Pride
  • Unforgiveness
  • loss of relationships 
Self gain
In the name of self love, so many people have become selfish, ignoring how many individuals might get hurt in the process. They do what they feel is right for themselves, all in the name of "self love".
A lot of lives' happiness have been stepped on, orphans who once had a place to lay their heads on, have been robbed of their shelter, all in the name of "self love".

Ignoring other people's needs
You have a good amount of money in your pocket, a person in need of urgent help,  approaches you and asks for help,  but because you want to use that money for a chill or your hair or something to make yourself feel happy, you say " I am sorry but,  I don't have money at the moment,  I wish I could help. "
You latter comfort yourself and say, " I won't sacrifice my happiness for anything,  self love is very important,  even the scripture says so."
A lot of youths have been deprived of education,  all in the name of self love. 

Pride
Self love has built pride, a lot of individuals cannot take responsibility of their wrong doings, they prefer walking away in the name of " I love myself, I am me and nobody can change me." failing to swallow the truth.

Unforgiveness
Others think, not forgiving and avoiding the ones that hurt them, is a way to self love. 

Loss of relationships 
A lot of relationships have been broken,  people just don't care about other people's emotions, to save themselves from facing the truth or trying to resolve problems,  they end up hurting others and breaking relationships. 

Well listen 
If it hurts the people around you,  it is not self love,  it is cruelty
We all need each other because we only have one another. 
Self love is the act of loving yourself,  doing things that will build you and taking care of yourself. The reason for it is that,  you cannot love others if you don't love yourself,  it comes from within,  then to the world. 
Avoiding pain is not self love,  it is weakness in disguise. 
Cheating and lieng is not at all self love
 ,  It is Hippocratic.


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